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(5:49AM) Monday here I come, ready or not. The weekend was where I thought it would be, so I don't know if it is appropriate for me to say that I was disappointed. There were no fireworks of any kind, and by now that should be a given. I might have tried to start a fire a couple of times, but my efforts were quickly doused, and sometimes I wonder why I bother. Sometimes I even wonder why I dwell any further on the subject.

I was thinking to myself yesterday, since there was no one else around to think to, that many couples probably look forward to those years when the kids finally decide to take flight and leave the next. It becomes just "you and me" time and any disconnects that came along due to school functions, sibling rivalry, or doctor appointments are hopefully remedied by reconnects. Now is the time for taking those weekend drives to wine country, looking for that quiet getaway where one can be reimmersed in another, and the intimate moments that were too far between before can be realized once more at your leisure. I don't think my other half has had those thoughts, and I don't think she cares to, and I still say that they need to have a course in high school along the lines of Life 101 where they bring in screaming kids and assign groups of students to care for them for several weeks at a stretch. They could have married couples come in that fight and bicker nonstop and tell the students that they will each get to spend two weeks with them so they can get a hint of what married life can be like. The possibilities for such a class would be unfathomable, but maybe, just maybe, something positive would come out it. On second thought, probably not. When it comes to life, the grass always looks greener where you're not, and then when you get to where you thought the grass was greener you discover something else.

I've still been doing a lot of thinking about this young woman Felicia Tang Lee who was beaten to death by her boyfriend, a wolf in sheep's clothing, back on September 11th. On a Facebook profile that seems to have disappeared, it was written in memoriam to her something about helping to stop domestic violence, but what does one do? The answer to that I wish I knew. I raised my own sons with the understanding not to hit on girls, and they got married anyway. Wrong hit. But really it's no laughing matter. Personally, I'd be all for beating the hell out of the culprit in similar fashion to what he does to the woman, then telling him to never ever touch a woman again. Clearly there is something wrong with a judicial system that waits for a violent domestic incident to occur before anything is done. How many times have I read, or heard someone talk, about the authorities saying there is nothing they can do until something happens, and usually when something happens it's too late to do anything. I'm guessing that's the way it was with the Felicia Lee incident.

As I've thought about this, I've wondered if there was a past history of domestic violence between her and her boyfriend, but they had only been living together for four months. Four months is hardly enough time to reach such a point, but then again, maybe I'm just naive when it comes to human behavior. I was always with the understanding that if two people like each other, maybe even love each other, they're not going to get into a knockdown dragout where one is going to do bodily harm to the other. But in the case of Felicia Lee I don't think it got to that point as she didn't stand much of a chance against her boyfriend anyway. I've seen pictures of the guy, and I can't see any woman getting the upper hand with someone like that. But it should have never happened, and as far as he is concerned someone should hand him a rope so he can do like Ryan Jenkins did, basically take justice into his own hands, but I'm going into a rant mode now, and I need to mellow out.

As far as what to do about domestic violence, it's going to take a change of heart with people, and until that change comes about it's going to take a firmer approach on the part of the judicial system in dealing with it. People need to be made aware, by whatever means, that there are serious consequences for domestic abuse. Personally, it wouldn't bother me to see them bring caning to this country as a form of punishment. A few days in jail probably doesn't do a whole lot for someone who abuses his wife or his girlfriend, but give him something that leaves a lasting impression, and he might think twice before he decides to raise his hand to a woman again. When it gets to the place where people are smacking up on one another, it's time for someone to make arrangements to live elsewhere, because that just isn't love anymore. And now I think I've gotten what I wanted to get out of my system out, and when I see something else written about another woman brutalized, or murdered, by her boyfriend or ex-husband, I'll probably have something else to say, but for now I think this does me.

Now with less than ten minutes left before I have to shift my head into a different gear, I'm going to go about my usual morning ritual. Got's to have the wake-up juice, even if I don't wake up, and I'm gone now.